A Love Letter for Clients Past + Present
Dear Everyone I’m working with now or have in the past,
Hi! Thank you! You’re a freakin inspiration!
February is a natural time for upping our self-love, partner appreciation and romance in our lives. Whether you’re partnered or single, I want to share some love and appreciation that I’d rather not take up a lot of session time disclosing.
Love and belonging are essential to living a joyful, supported life.
Even if you haven’t had a strong framework of what love, respect, collaboration and group cohesion looks like, individual therapy with a licensed NYC therapist has helped you find your people, practice balance and boundaries in your relationships, trust yourself and your intuition and achieve goals like building a family, starting a business, giving yourself the permission to change careers, grieving complex losses, forgiving yourself and others, and healing conditioning that made avoidance feel safer than authentic emotional attuned presence.
I’ve gotten to see some of you accomplish goals you thought were impossible
It’s not infrequent that one of you sweeties will thank me for “everything I’ve done”, to hear in response, “it was all you!” While I recognize that may feel invalidating or like I’m trying to not take a very nice compliment for work that you can probably tell I take very seriously, it’s also the truth. I have a certain set of skills that I use, as well as a love for continuing education trainings — you’ve probably heard me mention new perspectives and healing modalities I’m studying in relation to some of our goals and next steps. In a sense, I’m the navigation system of your healing. The amount you disclose, journal, practice new coping strategies and assess your progress non-judgmentally, is what really determines your great outcomes. It’s like the quote about taking a horse to water but not being able to “make” them drink. What you’re getting out of NYC counseling or coaching is a reflection of what you’re putting in.
Thank you for speaking up
It’s very important to me that those I work with feel valued, accepted and free to disagree with me or tell me why a certain intervention might not feel worth a try for you. If I tell you to try listening to upbeat music to start your day and you KNOW that would be overstimulating, please + thank you for being awesome and telling me upfront. For many of you, disagreeing, saying no, and asserting yourself are things you’re working on in the outside world, so it’s SO beneficial to be able to practice doing so together in a low-stakes environment. If you haven’t been able to or thought it might feel rude to me, I invite you to start! As the low-talker I have been my whole life, I know how hard it can be to project, make yourself seen and take up space, especially if you’re not 100% certain about what you’re going to say.
You can always come back
Whether you’d like to build community by meeting like-minded people in Group Therapy or new things have arisen and you’d like to maintain or set new goals in individual therapy, the door is always open! With the recession, pandemic and changing workforce, new groups are being developed to help more individuals for a lower fee while connecting with a growing community.
Scholarship Program
You know if i could do this work for free I would, but the rent around here is too damn high to entertain that right now. For those with financial abundance, you can contribute here to a therapy scholarship fund for low-income New Yorkers. Email me if you’re interested in a 3 month scholarship and live in a household earning $30,000 or less per year (no availability at the time of this post).
